1. "I would prefer a beautiful mind over an attractive face." ~Lynette C., TX.
*WHAT IT MEANS:
Women need to wake up and realize that going for the drop-dead gorgeous, extremely good looking guys, and basing a relationship soley on looks will only get you hurt. If a guy is that desireable, think about it, you're not the only one who will think so. And men are just men, especially the pretty ones. Why do you think they're so pretty? All they think about is themselves. You WILL get hurt. So, settle for the sweet guy who will never make you feel jealous or unworthy. Even if he doesn't look as good as Mr. Ken Barbie there, it will be worth it in the long run. YOU WILL BE FAR MORE HAPPY!
2. "And as days went by, I could feel the space widening. I had no hope. I stopped trying to make it work, because it hadn't been working for quite a while. We just could not get along." ~Emily L., NJ.
*WHAT IT MEANS:
Next time, don't go for the guy who will constantly pick a fight. A man who does this proves to be an unhappy man, and he will constantly make you unhappy. Trying to salvage a relationship like this will only cause you to hurt yourself. So, to completely avoid this situation, before you get serious with a guy, pay close attention to his conversationail skills. Is he always trying to prove himself right? Does he believe that he is absolutely smarter than you, or that you have no brains at all? In general, does he seem to like to argue? If so, then chances are it will not work out. Men like this will only be in a successful relationship with a woman who is a push-over. He cannot stand being with a woman who proves to have a stronger mind than him, thus, the relationship ends. And it actually hurts more because you let yourself fall in love with this man. Prevent it next time, find a level-headed guy who is easy-going yet likes to have fun.
3. "I never really trusted him to begin with, and then this had to happen. Now I find myself constantly worrying when I'm not right by his side." ~Vanessa P., IN.
*WHAT IT MEANS:
Trust issues are a major problem in today's relationships. Most people try to get over trust issues often by pretending not to care, or actually not caring at all. This way, the intense emotional pain involved with infidelity (cheating), is less severe. But for the people who deal with their trust issues day to day, you can start to feel a little broken down inside, because you are trying to save this relationship. Of course, if a man has cheated, the woman will seemingly forgive him, but still has burning questions and thoughts in her head that she will most likely never tell anybody. These questions and thoughts lead to doubts in herself, and the feeling of worthlessness to her man. In some occaisions, a woman will actually ask men questions similar to "Why did you do it?" hoping for a little relief. The worse possible answer is "I don't know." This leaves a woman with these questions and thoughts. If you are serious about taking a cheater back, the only way you will ever feel sure of yourself again is to actually get an answer out of the guy. If he cannot give you a straight answer, it's time to call it quits because this guy is not serious about you. When you do get a striaght-forward answer, expect it to hurt, but know that it can be fixed. And always remember, it's not always your fault that he cheated.
![[info]](http://l-stat.livejournal.com/img/userinfo.gif?v=91.7){kind=small}
tabz07's journal
